Seeking affirmation from God leads to a deeper trust, faith, satisfaction and dependency in Him.
June 25, 2017, 5:00 AM

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb; you taught me wisdom in that secret place. Psalm 51:6

When we are not comfortable in our own skin, we will pursue any avenue to obtain feelings of affirmation, even if they are temporary. Since we are created in the image of God who desires relationships and intimacy, we are hard wired for connection. We want to hear we belong, we are loved and we are valued.  The problem arises when we, as broken people, try to fill and satisfy these God given desires by looking to other broken people to speak value and worth into our lives.


How we relate to and are received by others determine our sense of self and feelings of security. We determine how valuable we are based off the perception of others. This places us on dangerous footing. By seeking the applause of the crowd, we become nothing more than an actor on the stage of life – we pretend, we play a role, we overcompensate, and we crave attention.  Our relationships become no more than a means to an end. We use other flawed individuals to get what we want. Our days are spent always comparing and always competing. Bitter envy and selfish ambition begin to take root in our lives.


We find ways to compete rather than look for opportunities to connect. It’s almost impossible to root for anybody when we are always trying to compete with everybody. We have no frame of reference to really consider others because our default is to figure out how to gain the upper hand.  Our relationships aren’t a cure for our loneliness, but serve as the context for expression. How we deal with our loneliness impacts every relationship we have. In Genesis, when God looked at Adam and said it wasn’t good for man to be alone, God wasn’t saying people could fill us in ways that He couldn’t. God was making a bold statement about Himself. The reason it is not good for man to be alone is because man cannot glorify God by himself.


Throughout history, a body of people reflecting the image of Christ is what has glorified God. We come together to support and encourage one another as we seek to glorify God through the way we live and interact with one another. People will see God’s love through our love for each other.  This can only take place if we understand the origin of our true self-worth. Instead we must let our true worth and identity be spoken into us from God. It begins by trusting that we have value in the eyes of God. The only relationship that makes us valuable is the one we have with our Creator.


Seeking affirmation from God leads to a deeper trust, faith, satisfaction and dependency in Him. But, it also transforms our approach to human relationships as well. When we are no longer looking for a human solution for our loneliness, we are free to find a connection with others.  Where do you tend to compare and compete? How is this inhibiting your ability to be authentic with others?


This is my Prayer:  Father God, rather than compete, help me look to connect with others. Lord teach me no to hide my true self from those around me.  Jesus show me how to have the courage to reveal my heart knowing I am loved by You. In Your name, Jesus. Amen.